mother superior's at it again!

Ah, gotta love good old Mother Superior - When she asked how the kids were, I told her the truth - not well - she informed me that everybody goes through hard times and they needed to just cope - that's what the other grandchildren have done-
gee, i didn't know that was a prerequesite of being a grandchild in this wonderful family -
Dear God -
My children are not in military, my husband is -
They miss him some days, they don't remember him other days - they cry, they worry - but hey, they need to just cope -
They are children, their dad is gone, they are children of Mother Superior's first born - one would think somehow that counts for something -
they are hurting-
They don't need to suck it up and deal -
They need to be hugged and have cookies baked for them and have be spoiled by grandparents -
Not told to be all they can be or that they are in effect, 'An army of one' - or two, as the case may be
If mr. wonderful were here, he'd probably laugh that his mother would be that insensitive -
somehow i don't see the humor
did I mention Mother Superior is a proud member of Shrub's party?
arrg

"It's like Daddy's in Prison"

oy- the dog is finally gone, the dance recitals and sleepover tye-dye birthday party are over, and brownie camp where I was a leader- no sleepover stuff at camp thank you, I don't do the outdoorsie tent stuff- is done, and now I can get back to the business of the giant pity party -
Father's Day was hard- my youngest remarked when we passed our usual liquor store that we should stop and buy Daddy beer. "No, you dummy, " his kind sister told him, "don't you get it, Daddy's not living with us anymore!"
"Oh, " said the little one"I forgot." then he comes out with "It's like he's in prison - he wears a uniform, he calls us, we don't call him and we can't visit him."
Hmmmm - who knew he would be the philosopher in the family-
He's right- it is like prison - Shrub is the warden and Mr. Wonderful's sentence is farrrrr to long, all appeals exhausted, no chance for parole.
as much as I try and schedule the kids so that they will forget the hell we are going through, it never leaves me-
And then we have the people who seem to think it's funny to make 'nutty -crunchy' jokes-
Because I'm not a big meat eater
Because I don't support the shrub-
Because of my earrings-
and yet, haven't the American people agreed with MY SIDE ?
hmmmm

family support??????

In the time that mr.wonderful has left, the printer died ( and came back to life) the big freezer died ( the jury's still out on that one), the phone system went down, the internet went down, one kid had a graduation ceremony, the former tenant broke into the rental proerty and the grumpy puppy bit one of the kids.
None of these has beeen as catastophic as the biting of the kid-
Not because the kid got bit - because the now the grumpy puppy will have to find a new home, but because of the repercussions of the bite -
members of the extended family were worried about the dog -
huh?
he bit my kid, not only that, he bit the other kid in April and the vet suggested at the time that we think about getting rid of the dog- we gave the dog another chance because we figured it was a one shot deal -
boy were we idiots-
I spoke to the vet after the second kid got bit- he told me to get rid of the dog- spoke to the Breeder, who offered me a new puppy ( a female this time) and said it seemed that the dog has aggression issues. The Breeder indicated that taking the dog back was not feasable, but that I should give the dog to a home without kids and who could spend lots of time training him and teaching him who was the dominant one. The Breeder also indicated that more training with the dog won't work with our family because he knows the kids and I are afraid of him, and the next time the dog bites, instead of going for the hands, like he did the last two times, he'll go for the face - the puppy kindergarten trainer advised to get rid of the dog. I even spoke to a dog behaviorist who advised me not to keep an agressive dog around children.
yet, members of the extended family were worried about what was to become of the dog-
apparently they had become attached to the dog-
but not my kids-
hmmm-
they cried over what would become of the dog -
they said they knew we never should have gotten a puppy in the first place-
they said they knew we just weren't the right family for the dog-
they knew it all along-
they tried to find the dog a new home-
one of the extended family had plane tickets to come to the graduation
but didn't come-
the extended family member didn't want to have to say goodbye to the dog
huh?
skipping a graduation ceremony (granted it wasn't exactly college, but still) of a kid whose dad is deploying to a war zone
a kid whose dad wasn't there -
and who's hurting and missing their dad
over a dog?
and get this, it's not mr. wonderful's happy bad of meanies that pulled all this crap-
it's mine-
so for the length o the deployment it looks like I have more than one branch that I don't have to deal with-
gotta love that family support -