In the time that mr.wonderful has left, the printer died ( and came back to life) the big freezer died ( the jury's still out on that one), the phone system went down, the internet went down, one kid had a graduation ceremony, the former tenant broke into the rental proerty and the grumpy puppy bit one of the kids.
None of these has beeen as catastophic as the biting of the kid-
Not because the kid got bit - because the now the grumpy puppy will have to find a new home, but because of the repercussions of the bite -
members of the extended family were worried about the dog -
huh?
he bit my kid, not only that, he bit the other kid in April and the vet suggested at the time that we think about getting rid of the dog- we gave the dog another chance because we figured it was a one shot deal -
boy were we idiots-
I spoke to the vet after the second kid got bit- he told me to get rid of the dog- spoke to the Breeder, who offered me a new puppy ( a female this time) and said it seemed that the dog has aggression issues. The Breeder indicated that taking the dog back was not feasable, but that I should give the dog to a home without kids and who could spend lots of time training him and teaching him who was the dominant one. The Breeder also indicated that more training with the dog won't work with our family because he knows the kids and I are afraid of him, and the next time the dog bites, instead of going for the hands, like he did the last two times, he'll go for the face - the puppy kindergarten trainer advised to get rid of the dog. I even spoke to a dog behaviorist who advised me not to keep an agressive dog around children.
yet, members of the extended family were worried about what was to become of the dog-
apparently they had become attached to the dog-
but not my kids-
hmmm-
they cried over what would become of the dog -
they said they knew we never should have gotten a puppy in the first place-
they said they knew we just weren't the right family for the dog-
they knew it all along-
they tried to find the dog a new home-
one of the extended family had plane tickets to come to the graduation
but didn't come-
the extended family member didn't want to have to say goodbye to the dog
huh?
skipping a graduation ceremony (granted it wasn't exactly college, but still) of a kid whose dad is deploying to a war zone
a kid whose dad wasn't there -
and who's hurting and missing their dad
over a dog?
and get this, it's not mr. wonderful's happy bad of meanies that pulled all this crap-
it's mine-
so for the length o the deployment it looks like I have more than one branch that I don't have to deal with-
gotta love that family support -
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now, let me preface this with I love dogs... but an agressive one should not be in a home with kids. Shame on that breeder for not immediately taking it back. and as for the family members not coming to a graduation because of a dog, they truly have problems that have NOTHING to do with a dog. I'm sorry you are having to deal with that as well as the rest of the crap associated with a deployed husband.
May I gently suggest that you find your support somewhere besides your family (his/yours) there must be a group of likeminded spouses in that area. Family isn't always the most supportive, no matter what the problem.
LAW
hey, just checking on you. Hope you are feeling a bit better and that you are moving ahead. If you need anything, yell, ok?
LAW
May I suggest you look for other spouses in your area? I promise that this isn't as useless as you might think. Even if you get nothing more out of it than a distraction, you may be glad you did it!
(Keep looking for those liberals in the military - they really are there!!)
Do you guys have any suggestions on how one look for such like minded spouses in the area? Or any other spouses? I am nowhere near my husband's unit (I decided to stay stateside when he was located in europe- briefly before deployment). Where can we find a support group??
You could google terms like "support" and "your town" and "military spouse" - or, look into official resources. In the navy we have Fleet and Family Support, which I am sure exists in the other branches as well under a slightly different name. Even if you aren't in the same area, they may be able to direct you to something nearby.
There are a lot of people online who are fabulous and helpful, too. Liberal Army Wife recommends SpouseBuzz - I am not wild about this site (it's just a little hokey for me) but if you look past that there is some good info there. It is definitely worth a look, especially as you may hook up with someone local that way.
It sounds silly, but I have also met great people who have been really helpful by googling "pissed off liberal navy spouse" and such. Give it a try!
Is there another base near you, even one you are not affiliated with? Even a different branch? Don't assume another branch can't be of help - we are all in this together, after all.
Good luck!
Hey! you ok? just a little worried. Let us know that you are alright. If you want, email me. my newest email
PLibArmyWife at gmail.com
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