A friend of mine recently told me to reduce the amount of stress in my life . This means for for the length of my husband's deployment I don't have to deal with his family. Perhaps there are benefits to the sorority - hmmm
In my husband's family - (he's the eldest of 5) all but one are either in the military or married to it - one is active duty - the rest hover around the periphery -
Mother Superior has told me that since her daughters and daughter in law went through it, I can go through it too - like it's some right, some privilege - to go through hell- to watch the person that means the most to you leave his kids and you and face God knows what.
Mother Superior has her car proudly plastered with yellow magnets. She ooozes red white and blue patriotic pride and does not question the Idiot from Texas. She is not afraid to sacrifice her sons, or sons in law. There is no room for doubt, no room for tears. Buck up suck up and take it like a man, this too shall pass.
Mother Superior is no match for her two daughters and daughter in law. They make her look like a kitten. My sisters in law have no need for FRG groups, blogs, books or an occasional cocktail - they take their pain straight thank you. They don't need anyone. Hell, they could fight the war blind folded with one foot amputated, no anesthesia, mind you - these ladies could squat in the desert, squeeze out a child and then get the Taliban to cry like babies -
and I needed an epidural, write a blog, loath the military and got hammered during all the last presidential debates out of hope and nerves and fear that Kerry would blow it - which he kinda did -
If the saying is "They kid because they love' I must be the most loved little in law in the world - their version of kidding borders on harrassment- if I weren't related to them, I'd slap them with a restraining order -
They have all gone through deployment yes, in fact one told me she never attended any FRG meetings - all she needed to know was - a knock at the door, he's dead - a phone call - he's just injured - pack a bag -
They need no one -
good for them
but I do -
and at almost 41, with my peace on earth earrings, my anti bush bumper stickers, liberal mindset and quietly supportive Weekend Warrior I am slowly figuring out who I am -
and I truly appreciate all my new sisters in this ugly war -
so for those of you who have given me support - I accept it, and I am very, very appreciative -
as for the in laws, I will have my cocktails, my blog, my FRG meetings and my books that help me deal with this mess - and I will have 400 days in which not to deal with their superiority complexes -
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Oh my dear, wish you were HERE! My little group of FRG outcasts would welcome you with open arms, a shoulder to cry on and understanding when you need to vent. As for the Out-laws..... oh, I really want to say it, but we don't want to drive away the children.... F 'em. I know, it's family. But you have to take care of YOU! their attitude, which is shared by many in our sorority, isn't healthy for you, (personally, I think it's unhealthy for them too)If you can, I would suggest limiting your exposure to the mandatory attendance on feast days.
Any time you need, come on over and chat.
LAW
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